Can I be honest today? You know, have one of those heart to heart conversations with you all?
A few weeks ago I got a request to cover this topic. The topic of accepting yourself and your natural hair texture after finding that it's not what you thought it was going to be.
To me, the core of "being natural" not only has to do with my hair, but throughout the years I've learned it's about being in-tune with yourself and accepting yourself no matter what.
So maybe you don't have "good people hair"(3a,b and c), but if that's how you feel, I'd tell you this...
Even if you love your hair texture...finding the really issue is what's important.
And if you think you won't attract a partner, I'd tell you to read this:
What men think of natural hair
Wondering what women think?..of course they love natural hair, that's why we stare at one another..duh..haha.
If you thought this journey would only be about hair care, then your wrong. Many of us who have transitioned from relaxed hair tend to hide behind our hair. I say many, but not all.
We hide behind our straight strands fearing the curl at our roots and focused our time on blending in with the rest of society.
“Why fit in when you were born to stand out?”
― Dr. Seuss
When I first big chopped, I'm not going to lie, it took some time to get used too. I knew it's what I wanted to do, but at first glance in the mirror I could say I looked...different. At this time none of my family members or friends were natural...just me, taking the plunge alone. (see all my old posts using the archive in the right column)
I wore my hair for two weeks and continued to struggle with styling and just the overall confidence to rock it, so I wore kinky twists.
At some point during that time, I truly began to find myself. Being natural is literally what you make it and for me it's not so much about outward appearance as to how you feel inside. I'd rather have an afro I can't comb through than struggle with the confidence to wear it.
Since being natural, my self-confidence has skyrocketed. Not that I'm the conceited type of any sort because that's not me. I'm simply laid-back and humble Victoria (with a sparkle of confidence) because that's who I've learned to become.
I like this community because it's not just about hair and if it was, I probably wouldn't be as involved. It's about more. So when you struggle accepting your appearance or even having the confidence to show the world who you truly are, remember it's about being "in-tune" with yourself.